“How can you lose something you’re still capable of giving? How can you fail if you haven’t stopped trying? And how can you miss as long as you’re still aiming?”
~ Mike Dooley, The Complete Notes from the Universe.
This was going to be one of my Friday quotes where I don’t give commentary. Since this one has questions, I thought it might be fun to discuss them.
The quote reminds me of when my first dog, Piezon passed away (spelled Paesano in Italian – roughly means “friend.”). I was severely grieving and found support on a pet loss message board. I stayed there for years after Piezon died to support other mourners as well. Some of them didn’t believe pets went to an afterlife and were devastated. They couldn’t cope.
I asked them, if they still felt the love for their pet after s/he died just as much as before? When they replied, yes, I asked, “why doesn’t the love die with them?”
In their silence, I answered, “Because love never dies.”
Love is eternal.
So no matter what someone believes about an afterlife, the pet lives on because the love is still there.
This takes me back to the question in the quote, “How can you lose something you’re still capable of giving?” You can’t lose love, because you’re always capable of giving it.
I’m currently working on getting my next book published, and one of the messages in the plot is to love yourself. This isn’t always as easy as loving our pets. Most of us aren’t even aware when we’re judging ourselves. It seems to come automatically, perhaps from something learned when growing up.
You can see the lack of self-worth by the way society treats one another these days. People like to make it sound like they love themselves when they share their virtue by supporting the latest societal cause for “the greater good.” Then they dehumanize those who don’t follow along with the “cause.”
The political divide seems unbridgeable. Could the virtue signaling help people feel better about themselves? Does it quiet their inner critics? Could it be that when they dehumanize others they’re really projecting their own unresolved issues outwardly?
I don’t know. 🤷♀️ I’m just asking questions. I admit that my own harsh inner critic has projected outward on occasion.
Have you been hard on yourself? Do you understand that you can’t fail? Do you realize that as long as you’re still aiming, you haven’t missed?
Just like the love a person still feels for a pet after s/he’s gone, love is always accessible to give to yourself. The wellspring of love never runs out. You only need to reach inside.