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Continuing Home

I was thinking about my blog post (Nomads) regarding what makes a person feel like they’re home.

Remember the movie Sleepless in Seattle?

In the film, Tom Hanks character was a widower pining for his wife. He couldn’t imagine anyone else making him feel the way she did. There’s a scene where the character tries to explain what it felt like when he knew his wife was “the one.” He said, (I’m paraphrasing), when he took her hand it felt like home.

After thirty-seven years of marriage, I still feel that sense of home when holding my guy’s hand. From the beginning until now. I’d add, there’s a sense of safety there. Feelings of trust, acceptance, and love.

The couple I wrote about who felt like nomads said they never felt home. Really? Not even in each other’s arms? They had two grown kids. Didn’t they feel home when they were together as a family no matter where they were?

I didn’t feel quite home when I moved away from where I grew up. But in the presence of my husband I felt a sense of home. I think, perhaps, if all the loved ones I left back in my hometown had moved close by in my new place I may have felt more settled.

In Florida, I loved the house we lived in. But then, when our first dog passed away, I hated the house for a while. That dog filled the place with such vibrant energy. And once again, being around my dog made me feel accepted. We trusted each other. The home felt so empty without him. Maybe it was me who was feeling empty because of the loss.

I’m seeing a recurring theme here. Acceptance. Trust. Love. I’m thinking, at least for me, a home can be created and felt in the heart with those things. I might add, a touch of humor would help, too.

 

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15 thoughts on “Continuing Home”

  1. I don’t really know what to say about the concept of home and what/who makes me feel like I’m at home. That’s because I feel like I have been homeless and pretty much a nomad for the past few years. I think, then, I will feel at home when I am finally in a place where I know I can finally build my own new nest. Not sure what that will include but at this point there’s no way I could go back to the last place that felt like home to me in that way. Makes me sad so maybe this thought will kick of a tearjerking entry for an upcoming writing exercise. Trying to look on the bright side here.

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    1. I know you’re not in a good place right now. I good cry is cathartic. I do it now and again for my own life situation (chronic pain). Afterward, I get on with it. I know you will, too. Things will get better eventually. My warmest wishes for many blessings coming your way soon.

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  2. Lori, loved your way of describing home. When I lost E.W., I had no home so I moved to Florida for a while, as you know. Didn’t work, but gave me a break. Returned to KY, with my dogs who are basically now my family. Am ‘Home’ again, on the bit of KY I shared with my life partner. Sometimes I feel his presence, look at a beautiful sunrise and know he’s sharing it with me.

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    1. Hey Mary. I know you understand how I felt living in Florida. You and I were in the same situation back then. Your home in KY sounds so cozy. Next time I’m in that state I may stop and see you. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Thanks for reading my post.

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    1. Thank you, Lynette. That photo of us is from at least 10 years ago. Ahem. We’ve aged a bit since then. ๐Ÿ˜• Glad you feel at home with your M. ๐Ÿ™‚๐ŸŒบ

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  3. Lori it is so beautiful that you and your guy are still safe and home in each otherโ€™s arms after so many years. Thatโ€™s something we can all hear and know that we should feel comfortable with our love โค๏ธ

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  4. Lori, a beautiful reflection of what home means to you and to others. I am deeply touched how the home is when you hold your guy’s hand – a precious gift in life and one to treasure.

    It took me a while to realise that home could be many places, either in the past and equally in the present and that also home could be synonymous with being near one’s loved ones (be they friends or family). hugs xx

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      1. Aww … thank you and yes, now tested negative and the fatigue is the worst. Slowly but surely getting better. I truly appreciate home – in all its formats more than ever! โค๏ธ

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