My doubts continue about the humanity of humanity. This also ties in with the season of “giving.”
So, let me ask a question.
If you were in need of some kind of help, something minor, like a listening ear, or perhaps you needed a ride because a car broke down, would you accept help? I mean, if a family member or friend offered you a ride to work and back for two days, while your car was in the shop, would you take them up on it? It could help you save money from getting a rental or using Uber. Or, would you turn it down because you wouldn’t want to be any trouble to anyone?
Personally, I believe it’s important to both give and receive. If we aren’t willing to receive, it blocks the flow of giving and caring energy.
Lately I’ve noticed people don’t know how to receive with grace. This is perplexing to me, so I’m doing my usual by digging deep and waxing philosophical.There could be several reasons why some turn down help when they could use it. They may not want to look weak, or they might think they’re being too much of a bother. The one I see most of the time is that the receiver doesn’t want to feel indebted to the giver . . . like they owe them something in return. For example, I’ve helped out with taking care of a dog or two when their owners couldn’t be there. I didn’t expect any kind of gift or payment. I was happy to do it. I did it because I cared, not only for those dogs, but for their owners who were my family and friends. Still, those dog owners felt the need to repay me. I understand that it’s their way of saying thank you, but I’d prefer we be each others’ support network. It’s much more valuable to me to know we can count on each other.I’ve had a couple things happen recently in my life, where I would’ve felt comforted if someone offered their help. I may or may not have accepted, but an offer would’ve felt like someone out there cared. To know I had a support system to fall back on if needed would’ve been helpful.
To be fair, I didn’t ask for help, but they knew what I was going through. If the roles were reversed, I wouldn’t need to be asked, I’d automatically offer my help.
I don’t mean to make this a complaint or a woe-is-me post, it’s more about my observations of humanity. I think this has contributed to the reason (among others) society is divided. Perhaps some church communities offer support systems, but what about family and friends? Payment may feel good for the person who received the help, but a support system for the giver is love being paid forward.
Giving without expectation, shows caring, but we can’t forget to receive with grace. Sometimes it’s okay to accept a helping hand, and then, if circumstances allow, help out the giver or someone else when they’re in need . . . pay it forward.
If we aren’t willing to give and receive help with our circle of friends, family and neighbors, how will we ever be able to live together in harmony?