How many people do you know that are able to humble themselves enough to admit when they’re wrong?
What kinds of situations are there where someone might be wrong?
Well, I just had an incident last week. I sent something I found on the internet to someone. The person I sent it to said it was fake news. I usually do my homework when dealing with things found on the internet, so I insisted it was real. Funny thing, this time I didn’t really check. I’d seen similar things like it before, and they’d all turned out to be true, so I figured this one was true, too.
The next day, I had to admit I was wrong. I contacted the person I sent the item to and let them know.
Another time, there was a person who I absolutely despised. I thought the behavior of this person (AB) was atrocious and arrogant. I said I’d never behave the way AB behaved.
I didn’t put myself in AB’s shoes and had judged self-righteously. Over time, I learned some things about AB that I hadn’t known before. I found my perception had not only been wrong, but was manipulated by what someone else said. I had to admit to everyone who I complained to about AB, that I was wrong. I surprisingly found that AB was someone I could like and respect.
Note: In the interest of anonymity, please pardon the awkward writing in this post.
This is not about pointing fingers at social media or anyone else, but about re-examining what we believe to be true. I find that when I admit to my own error and apologize, I can forgive myself and let it go.
So much of society judges self-righteously, without listening . . . without self-reflection . . . without humility. Are we being manipulated by media and social media? If so, shouldn’t people stop to think before they follow blindly? Can anyone humble themselves and admit they made an error in judgment? I think this needs to be done, because divided we fall. Together we win.
Have you ever had anyone admit they were wrong to you? Have you ever had to admit you were wrong?
Lovely post! The thing is … someone who admits they are wrong is able to be open and see the big picture, hear both sides and allow for misjudgments. We are all vulnerable and to be able to admit to mistakes is pretty powerful Thanks for sharing!
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Hi MargeKatherine. You’re right, we are vulnerable when we admit to mistakes, and it’s understandable why we might be hesitant to do so. Thank you for your kind comment.
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I don’t think we can be human and not make mistakes. And when we can let down our ego’s need to be right and admit our fallibility–that is such a gift to both ourselves and others. I am finding it a bit easier to admit mistakes without beating myself up as I get older and more aligned spiritually. Hopefully! Thanks for this thoughtful blog post.
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Hi Kathy. You’re right. And, knowing that making mistakes is part of being human can soften the blow when we have to admit it. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
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There are so many things I was wrong about when I was younger. I can realise know how judgemental I was.
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I certainly understand that, Abbi. I only wish I could’ve used what I know now when I felt healthier in my youth.
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It’s not an easy thing to do but it felt so much better once you’ve done it. ..:)
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Hi George. Yes, it does feel better when we admit we were wrong. It would eat away at me if I didn’t. Thank you for reading. Have a nice weekend.
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Oh for sure. I think I wrote a handbook on this. 😉 Sometimes I’ve been completely flummoxed, but everyone has to deal with it some time.
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I get it, Lynette. Thank you for sharing. I’m heartened that my blogger friends understood what I meant and are of like mind in this. ❤
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I was raised to always admit to my mistakes and trust me, there have been many. 🙂 Several years ago, I heard a quote that has stuck with me. I’m not sure who to give credit to, but it said, “You learn nothing from life if you think you’re right all of the time.”
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Thank you for sharing that quote, Jill. It’s a keeper. 🙂
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I never had a problem with apologizing for when I fell short, that is until I moved to the US. I found that people here (at least in my opinion) don’t like admitting that they are wrong. I think this may be compounded by characters on TV saying they find it hard to apologize. Some people in my office would be wrong and would not come back to me to admit. This made stop admitting that I was wrong as frequently as I did before.
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I haven’t lived anywhere else but the U.S., but I’d have to agree with you about people here not liking to admit they made a mistake. We see it in person and all over the news. I wonder what led to this. Something to think about. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, ZLady.
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It’s only hard the first time you do it. You get such a sense of relief and in the end the other person has more respect for you. I know people who do not do it and because of that I think of them as self-centered and narrow minded. Funny how that works.
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I know what you mean. I feel better about admitting that I made a mistake rather than if I were to pretend like I didn’t. I also find it difficult to be around those who have to always be right, even when they’re wrong. Thanks for sharing your experience, Kate.
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Lots of times! It’s hard but good to make amends and right some wrongs.
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Thanks, Anneli. I always feel better about myself when I admit I made a mistake, rather than if I were to pretend like I didn’t.
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Of course, because you’re not a BS’er.
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I wouldn’t even know how to BS if I tried. 😛
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That’s good.
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