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The truth is that the world’s demands are infinite, and your time is not. Things will always be left undone—just make sure they aren’t the things that matter the most. ~ Martha Beck.

I think there’s something wrong with me, because I’m lazy.

Maybe I have some sort of disorder. As I’ve mentioned before, I tend to panic when there is too much going on at once.

I’m a little ashamed that I’m a lazy person. I’m not always up for driving far to do something (more than 30 minutes) or going to some big event. I have to psych myself up for those things. I’d much rather hang out at home with family and friends.

It’s not that I don’t take care of my responsibilities, because I get those done. I just make a schedule and spread them out so I don’t feel bombarded with everything at once. I make sure that I have time in between work/chores each day for me to relax. If something slightly throws off my schedule, I do okay, but if it gets completely thrown off, I’m in discombobulated mode.

I don’t understand people whose schedules are packed with no time for socializing (with family & friends), no time for relaxation, and little time to take care of their personal needs. Even when these people have five minutes free, they’re doing paperwork or computer work, and I don’t mean social media, but actual work. I’m exhausted just writing about it.

Dolce far niente. In Italian it means, [how] sweet to do nothing. So, maybe I’ll use my Italian blood as an excuse and say I was born this way. Or, maybe I was conditioned. Who knows?

Anyway, this is my lead-in to say that I have a lot going on in this month of September. Since I know in advance, I can maneuver my schedule. Some of my usual activity may go by the wayside. After today, I’ll visit blogs when I can, but won’t be around as often. Once things settle down again, I’ll be hanging out more often.

Stay cool my blogging buddies and take some time for dolce far niente.


21 thoughts on “Lazy”

  1. I think it’s important to take time to breathe, to relax, to let yourself enjoy life. But I tend to be a massive scheduler, so I actually schedule down time. I can be at home in my pjs watching tv and if someone asks me to do something I tell them I’m busy. Because I am–taking me time. 😉 Love your approach to things, Lori!

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    1. Hi Jill. When I relax, I know that what needs to get done will get done on the time I scheduled. However, somehow I feel guilty when I’m being lazy, because I see others constantly on the go. But, I’ve gotten such a good response, I think I’ll just enjoy. Thanks, Jill. Enjoy your relax time. 🙂

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    1. Thanks, Lynette. I like that you take time just to be. I actually relax even more than I let on….but still get things done. I’ll take your advice and enjoy my relaxation. Keep enjoying that free time. 🙂

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  2. I agree with Andrea: you’re being sensible not lazy! We all need down time. The older I get the more important it is I have it. So take that time when you need it. Our work will just have to wait for us!

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    1. Sensible. Thank you, Andrea. Some of my friendly travel bloggers would likely think I’m boring. Truth be told, I’d much rather hang around the house over going to an event. Although on nice weather days I don’t mind a festival or two.

      Thanks again for the insightful comment. 🙂

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  3. You’ve written books so you can’t be lazy. You’re just more organized with your time and have allowed time for relaxing. I have so much on my plate (put there by myself), that when I collapse with exhaustion and do nothing (being lazy), I feel guilty. I have to learn to plan for these lazy moments so I can enjoy them more. You’re a step ahead of me if you can do that.

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    1. Hi Anneli. I think I wrote this post, because I also feel guilty. I see so many others around me with completely filled busy schedules, and I think I’m supposed to be more active. I appreciate your kind and thoughtful comment. Now, go ahead, take time to relax. Dolce far niente. 🙂

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  4. I’ve finally started to embrace being lazy at age 45. I used to feel like time was running out and i had to achieve something fast; my 30s were the absolute worst for this, I was a wreck (get a decent career going, have a kid, improve the house, write some books, be someone – I had cold sweats, basically all the time). Now I feel like I’ve come out the other side of that and it’s kind of too late (in a good way) to worry about all that stuff any more. It is what it is, as they say, and my goal now is to stress as little as possible, work less, have more holidays, and do more of what I want to do. Also, it helps massively that I’m married to an Italian who constantly goes on about that dolce far niente and I’ve adopted that too. We call it DFN now and it’s become a byword for guilt-free relaxing in our house. It’s a really good concept and we don’t really have an expression for it in English do we (“let’s do f*ck all” hasn’t got the same ring I suppose…)….

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    1. Yes, remembering back to my 30’s, I was the same way. I thought I’d be devastated when I hit 40, because that would finalize the no-kids thing, but I was happiest at age 40. It’s when I came into acceptance and was actually pretty healthy then, too. I’d lost all of that “hormone-shots” weight and got on with my life. Now, I guess sometimes I feel guilty for not being more active, especially when I have so many around me so busy.

      That’s funny that you call it DFN. I like it. In English it’s nice to say “how sweet it is to do nothing.”

      Thanks for the thoughtful comment, DS.

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      1. Yeah I feel like I’ve come into acceptance and can relax a bit more about things. My priorities now are a nice place to live and a bit of peace, and spending enough time with friends and family that I like… and more holidays. Stuff like that….

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