Have you ever been baffled by someone in your family? Okay, let me clarify.
Has there ever been one particular person in your family, by marriage or by blood, that you couldn’t figure out how to get along with? Even though you loved the person and wanted to be a part of their lives, you couldn’t figure out a way to understand each other?
No? Just me?
This is where my characters, Ava and Meg Whitaker were born, out of the mind of someone who struggled with family relationships.
Over the years, through lots of personal inner work, I came to a better understanding of my relationships. Some of the time, I found that I was taking things personally that really weren’t about me. A family member may have their own deep-rooted issues that have not been addressed. Other times, I really had to take a look at my own behavior. The trick is, knowing which it is, their issues, or your own, or maybe a little bit of both.
Just when I’d think I had it all figured out, another relationship issue would pop up, like recently. I’ve been filled with gratitude over being back near family again and spending time with them. While I was away, a new family member entered, and we never really got to know each other due to the distance.
So, a new challenge has arisen. Is it me? Is it their own issues? Is it both? I think that perhaps we have people in our lives to teach us something about ourselves and the world. Sometimes I get frustrated, because it seems like I’m the only one willing to grow and learn from these challenges.
On the other hand, new ideas for novels are growing in the mind of this author.
In my novel, Whit’s End, each character in the Whitaker family deals with personality conflicts in their own way, be it for good or for bad. If you have the time or inclination, I’d love for you to let me know what you think of how they handled their situations. Click on the book cover to learn more.
What about you? Have you ever had to resolve family relationship issues?