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Insert Boot in Mouth

boot (624x800) wmOver the weekend, I attended a social function. I’m usually quite good at these things. I enjoy meeting people and mingling.

However, this past weekend I didn’t do so good. I don’t know what happened,ย  I opened-mouth and inserted-foot at every turn.

I’m a person who doesn’t know how to pretend. What you see is what you get. So, before I speak, I have to filter what’s going on in my brain a little more than most people. Even in my posts, I say what I think, I just have time to find tactful words, draft them, let them sit for a while, recheck them, fix them a bit, and then post. I may hold back some thoughts, but I always say what I mean and mean what I say.

Over this past weekend at that social function, I didn’t filter too well. I realized later, after I got home, that … oops, that probably wasn’t the most proper thing to say.

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I’m embarrassed, but it was something said about someone’s height, or lack there of.ย  I thought I was being funny and self-deprecating, since I’m extremely short and referred back to me as well. But, there ya go. I hang my head in shame as I try to forget mike lori george 2it. (See little miss shorty-pants – below)

I wish I could say that was my only misstep, but it wasn’t. To be fair to myself, my second blunder came when a certain woman there kept kissing my butt, over-doing her praise of me in front of a bunch of people. It was obvious to me that it was a passive-aggressive way to purposely embarrass me (I know this woman and it’s her style). I didn’t know how to react. I didn’t say too much, but my face felt like the color of a tomato, and all that came out was an embarrassing “aww shucks” type expression.

Oh, did you think those were my only two blunders? Naww, I was on a roll. My three little nephews happened to be at the same event. One of them kept trying to egg-me-on with a negative comment about me. I’d like to say I acted like the adult with that child, but I didn’t.

I don’t know where my filter was that day. Thoughts that came to the forefront of my mind just popped out of my mouth. The only thing I could come up with is that after so many years being isolated in another state without friends or family, my filter didn’t get much use. The only social interaction I had in Florida was with authors, and I usually did okay.

I’m not making excuses for my behavior. I laid it all out in this post … the entire shameful muck of it all.

They say confessions can be freeing.

Have you ever inserted your foot-in-mouth and didn’t realize it until it was too late? If so, how did you handle it? Have you ever had someone praising you to the point of embarrassment?

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23 thoughts on “Insert Boot in Mouth”

  1. Yes, I’ve done it! We all do at some point in time. Heck – maybe sometimes people need to hear a little honesty. But hopefully your audience recognizes that all of us are only human. It happens! And you have a kind heart, so I know you’ll make up for it in some way – whether with those same people or someone else.

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    1. Thankfully, it wasn’t an entire audience, it was just a person here and there whom I was mingling with. God forbid I have an entire audience. It’s why I hate public speaking, which is the topic of next week’s post. ๐Ÿ˜›

      Thank you for sharing, and for the nice comment, Tee. Hope all is going well with you.

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    1. Haha. It appears from the comments, that many of us have a mouth full of foot products at some point. I do tend to overthink.Thank you for the kind comment.

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    1. Ha. True. Everything is offensive these days. No one seemed offended. I just didn’t want to seem rude. Then again, a couple of people were rude to me ( my little nephew and a certain woman). I just didn’t like my reaction, but I know I overthink. Just me, analyzing again. ๐Ÿ˜›

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      1. If you want to change your reaction another time, just think about the past experiences long enough to learn from them and then let them go. You can’t change the past, and probably it’s worse in your mind than in anyone else’s.

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  2. I find it much harder to talk with folks who aren’t authors. It’s a real struggle and does take active filtering on my part. All except with my husband, who has morphed a part of his brain to understand author-speak.

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    1. Hi Marsha! I could tell you were comfortable talking with us authors. I’m missing it. I know your husband has learned how to filter and adjust to that author-speak. Sometimes my husband listens to it, sometimes he tunes it out. Ha. Good to hear from you.

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    1. From the comments, it seems we’re not alone, Angela. So, maybe people will cut me a break if they’ve done it too. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  3. Thankfully, I take after my father and am somewhat reserved. I tend to sit back a listen, while others are inserting the boot. ๐Ÿ™‚ Of course, back in my college days, while partying with friends, I’m sure I had my moments.

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    1. Oh boy, I was even worse during my college-age years. This doesn’t happen as often as back then, but unfortunately, on this occasion, it did. ๐Ÿ˜›

      I could tell even by meeting you in blogs that you are more reserved. Sitting back and listening is a great trait to have, especially in your line of work.

      In my whole world of needing balance, I do a little of each, listening and jabbering. I think I may need to tip the scale a little more in your direction. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Thanks for sharing, Jill.

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  4. I think we’ve all inserted our foot at some point. As an introvert, I have the misfortune of going home and rehashing everything I said at a social event. “Was it okay to say that? Should I have answered that way? Why did I say that?” Ugh. It’s exhausting. And though maybe sometimes I do say something that could have used a better filter, for the most part I know any missteps are all in my head.

    So I try to silence the thoughts with one of my favorite quotes: โ€œYou wouldnโ€™t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.โ€โ€•Eleanor Roosevelt (and Dr. Phil)

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    1. Hi Carrie. As you know, I’m right smack dab in the middle of the introvert/extrovert scale, and I do the exact same thing with going over what I said after an event is over. You even wrote the same questions I ask myself. Ha. Which is exactly what I did this time and realized my blunders. ;-P

      Thank you for sharing your experience and also for that quote. I love it. I have to remember to use it and cut that inner dialogue off at the pass.

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  5. Hi Lori, I am always doing stuff like that I don’t always think before I talk and then when I realize what I have done I dig myself into a deeper hole by trying to undo the blunder so then I stay quiet and everyone thinks I am mad. Sometimes you just can’t win.

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    1. Haha. I didn’t dig myself deeper this time, only because I didn’t realize what I said until I thought about it later. Had I realized it at the time, the hole would’ve gotten deep. Heh. Thank you for sharing your experience, SD. Seems like many people can relate.

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