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Recovery and Change

In the future, I may have more lessons to share that I’ve learned from my husband’s injury, but this will probably be the last update on his condition.

IMG_0354 (791x800)He is up and walking on his own now … no walker, but sometimes uses a cane, especially for when he first stands up. He can only fit into one pair of shoes (sneakers). His right foot remains somewhat swollen.

The doctor approved him to work two days a week. The other three days he goes to rehabilitation. He walks with a profound limp. It is obvious by his grimaced expression that it is painful simply to walk. Hopefully, that will go away over time. He’s been told he will have trouble with arthritis in the future. It won’t always be easy, but we’re grateful the fall didn’t cause a serious enough injury to debilitate him completely. He will go back to the doctor next week, and we find out if he’ll be approved to work more hours or not.

Although my husband is dealing with the situation quite well, he’s still having a difficult time accepting when things change in life. I don’t think he’s received that life lesson from this crisis, at least not yet. He is still a man who resists change.

All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another. ~Anatole France

It’s no secret that I’ve wanted to move from the hellish heat in Florida for some time. Don’t get me wrong, you won’t hear me complaining in the winter, but we are hitting record high temps this year. There are no breaks from the heat (any year) for a good four to six months.

Since my husband’s job requires a lot of time on his feet, I hoped he might consider applying for a different position in his field. Perhaps even a transfer to a different state. He talks about doing it, but doesn’t take action.

Me, I miss change. I’m restless and I’m hot. I’m trying to find the life lessons to learn from having to remain here. I remind myself of gratitude. Gratitude is just another word for happiness, no?

If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. ~Mary Engelbreit

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I’ve been dealing with my own share of health issues. I’m seeing lots of specialists right now, trying to get a diagnosis. It’s daunting, and my symptoms are a bit scary, but that’s not the focus of this post.

I must admit, an out-of-state move would be a huge undertaking, especially with both of our health challenges right now. So, I wait it out once again, and perhaps when the situation improves we can re-visit change.



If nothing ever changed, there’d be no butterflies. ~Author Unknown

Have you ever felt like you needed a change but were stuck, through no fault of your own? Are you afraid of change?

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29 thoughts on “Recovery and Change”

  1. It’s good you are seeing lessons and opportunities for understanding and growth. Patience and waiting for the right time is the hardest for me but I enjoy conquering my desire for things to move quicker. I still feel impatient and the mastery is not always perfect but makes me feel stronger. I find it helps to look at what we have accomplished via our perseverence, as well as the possibilities that lie ahead 🙂

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  2. The level of patience you’ve both had to exhibit throughout your husband’s recovery is huge! You’ve handled it with humor and grace, at least in your writing. I’m sure there were times we didn’t hear about where you wanted to throw up your hands and give up.

    I’m sorry to hear you’re suffering with health issues yourself. I hope you get a diagnosis and treatment soon. I’ll say prayers for you.

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    1. Thank you so much for this supportive comment, Terri. I’m struggling right now, and may be posting about it tomorrow if the blog posts when I scheduled it to. I tried that once before (scheduled a post) and it didn’t work. 😛 Anyway, once my husband and I got into a routine with his injury, we did handle it pretty well. There were times before the routine when I thought I was going to lose it. I may post about those one day. First, I need to see what’s going on with my health. Thank you again, my friend. I needed this, and humbly accept your prayers.

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  3. Lori, thanks for the update. Sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now with your husband’s recovery, your health issues and thoughts about a move. And too-much-heat doesn’t make it any easier, I am sure. Wishing you the best, my friend. May the Universe support you fully…

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  4. Dear Lori, I’m glad, I’m sad, I’m feeling good, I’m feeling bad, glad for Gary’s mending, sad for your leaving? I’m sending you a mothers prayer, it’s from the bottom of my heart. Love you, love you MaJoan

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  5. I am happy to hear your husband is back on his feet. I’m sorry his foot is still swollen. I hope that the rehab will help him grow stronger. It’s hard to deal with change or new limitations. I think we all respond differently and process as we can. You both have been through so much. Sending lots of positive thoughts.

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  6. I’m glad to hear your husband is doing better, but I hope the same will also be true for you with your issues.

    There have been times I’ve felt trapped or stifled and yet also too afraid to make a change. And sometimes changes don’t always bring the improvements we hope for. But other times, they do, and we look back and wonder why we feared taking that first step to a better place.

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    1. Some good points about change, JM. It’s true, the changes we make don’t always turn out the way we hoped. Moving here from my home of 25 years was a huge change all those years ago, but it was meant to be. We were quite young and it helped us to grow up. Now, I’m grown up and ready to go back home. Your well wishes mean a lot. Thanks so much.

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  7. No one wants to hear you are lucky or fortunate, I think that is one of the few things I know for sure. I worked for 10 years in a major ER and I probably said that at least 10 times every night; “you are so lucky”. You can’t really know what the alternative is to your condition unless you are forced down that path where everything really changes, where whatever was is now totally gone…Your husband is fortunate to have such a strong support network, in time this will be mostly a memory. Buy him a new pair of shoes, find him a walking stick with character, and spend time with him working in a food pantry, or maybe the Make a Wish Foundation.

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  8. I’m so happy to hear your husband is doing better and he’s now able to go back to work for a few days a week. Perhaps by him getting into a more normal routine will help you both.
    I can certainly relate to your feelings about change and Florida, Lori. Ten years ago, I was living in Northern Virginia, a place I’d lived all of my life and I was restless…I needed change desperately. I sold my house and moved to South Florida and after six months, I was miserable. I wanted rolling hills, change of seasons and temperature. I ended up in North Carolina…do I completely love it here? For me, Virginia will always be home, but my job is here in NC, so I keep plugging along and I’m happy. I guess the point I’m trying to make is, location doesn’t always bring happiness.
    I hope you get to the bottom of your health issues…keep us posted.

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    1. Thank you for sharing your experience, Jill. You’re not too far from home, but I know it’s still not the same thing. I appreciate your comforting words.

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  9. I think gratitude is synonymous with Divine Love, Lori. Happiness? That’s one of the expressions of Divine Love. Just sayin’. Abide in gratitude and see what comes through you! xoxoM

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  10. It’s so much easier not to change, but your lives will have changed from this experience – which might be one of the reasons you feel a need for more change. I remember when my mother was terminally ill, you’d think I wouldn’t want anything else to alter, but I felt extremely restless and full of possibility.

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    1. Hey Andrea. It is so true, how are lives will be changed from this experience. He’s starting to realize he won’t be able to be on his feet for 55-hour work-weeks anymore. He knows he has to change his managing style, but as I said, he’s still a bit resistant to it. Hopefully, he’ll get it figured out.

      Thanks for sharing your experience with change. I feel for you regarding your mom, and I can imagine the restlessness. Hugs.

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  11. Change can be scary but often times brings new joys as well as discoveries. I am ready to leave my old life and move from the heat and oppression of AL to somewhere, but where?

    I am glad he is better. I would not ever want to live on Florida. I admire your fortitude.

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    1. Hey Linda. Good to hear from you. I’m from Chicago and wouldn’t mind living back near family, but it’s too expensive to live there. I’d actually love to move to Tennessee. Just a dream, at least for now.

      Always appreciate hearing from you. I put you and your son in my prayers and hope all is going well. Hugs.

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  12. I’ve had enough changes in my life that I don’t fear it. I try to welcome it, but sometimes that’s difficult. I’m a person who likes her routine. Anything that shakes that up can be a bit daunting.

    Glad to hear your husband has made such progress. I hope he continues to make as full a recovery as possible, and I wish you well with your own health issues. Hopefully you’ll be able to get to the bottom of it.

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    1. Hey Carrie. Oh, I’m just like you where I need routine in daily activities. I actually can start to get panicky if my routine is thrown off. But, I miss the change of seasons. We’ve been in the same house for 25 years. While I need routine, I’m tired of our same old routine. I’d like a new one.

      Thanks for your well wishes for both of us. It always lifts my spirit to read them. I’ve kept your mom in my prayers. I hope she is improving.

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  13. I’ve been feeling restless lately, too. Partly, it’s the end of summer blues that sets me off. Once autumn begins, I usually experience a revival, recommitment phase.

    We’ve just started the new school year; and I’m really too busy to think, much less wish for change. But I do. I’m not against change, if it’s my idea. 😀

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    1. I super-duper miss the change of seasons. I also don’t have kids, so life is not as hectic for me as it is for parents. I actually get flustered with too much activity, but I still need a change once in a while. And, you’re so right, change is so much better when it’s our own idea. Heh.

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  14. It’s natural to feel boxed in at times and need change. Those who don’t want to embrace it and accept that “this is as good as it gets” are sad IMHO. Why wouldn’t you up and move to greater horizons at this point in time? It sounds like he’s on the mend (congrats and Godspeed). It sounds like you’ve endured that f’n hot weather long enough!

    Good luck with whatever you do. I believe in you!

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